Six years ago Michael and I celebrated our first Christmas together as a married couple. Growing up in a big but very close family, it was weird to let go of the holiday traditions I'd grown up doing, and work to figure out what would become mine and Michael's own traditions. Not that we didn't … Continue reading holiday traditions.
Everyone can agree that the holidays are both wonderful and stressful. But not everyone realizes that people with eating disorders are under extra pressure during the October to January months. I hosted a Friendsgiving party this past week, and while I love planning events, I hate the mental preparation that goes into actual hosting them. … Continue reading holiday mindfulness.
Lately, I have felt like I have been in a rut. After a month of travelling and busyness, it was hard to adjust back to my pre-October schedule. What had been working well the past few months just wasn't working anymore, and I had to do that scary changing-up-my-routine thing. I thrive on having my … Continue reading reroute.
October is over. Family visited. I traveled east and west. Planned a trip to New Orleans over Christmas. I applied to probably 100 jobs. I revised a good chunk of my dissertation. I scheduled my defense date for January. Thought/fretted a good bit about what next year might bring. And, then I woke up today, on November … Continue reading taking a breath.
This past week I had someone ask me about how to be a good, supportive friend to someone with an eating disorder. Although she did tell him that she has an ED, he mentioned that he notices worrying behavior, and he doesn't know how to respond to it. He felt like he could ask me … Continue reading asking for a friend.
Our cat, Loki, has been on Prozac for a couple of weeks, and it has been a miraculous transformation. I do not say this lightly. A month ago, he was spraying everywhere, scratching his hives, losing hair, and crying if I shut him out of my office. Now, he does none of these things. And, … Continue reading changes.
Last week, I was given the opportunity to witness to someone. It wasn't a huge gesture. I didn't have my Bible. I didn't quote scripture at them. It was completely unexpected. It just started from a real, no-frills conversation with someone that I work with but didn't know very well. We talked about everything from … Continue reading ashes into beauty.
This week my husband has done an incredible job of supporting me. I know it's not easy living with someone who is mentally ill. And I'll always feel guilt over the fact that I didn't "come out" as mentally ill before we were married. I didn't intentionally deceive him. I just thought I could manage … Continue reading be patient.
Typically family members will be the first ones to learn of a loved one's mental illness. Living day to day with people, it becomes hard to hide certain parts of one's self. Sometimes, out of desperation for help, people will either confide in those close to them or act in a way that makes it … Continue reading the disbelievers, the pathologizers, and the empathizers.
After the week (and to be honest, weeks) I've had, I've decided that when I go in for my 3-month checkup with my doctor I'm asking for a higher dose of medication. It's hard to admit this. I worry that it sounds like I'm giving up/in and announcing I'M WEAK AND CAN'T COPE. I have … Continue reading the gratitude myth.